1. Realize what you’re looking for.
You’ve probably watched wide-eyed television shows featuring Victoria’s Secret models, traipsing up and down the runway, looking waifish and attractive, saying to yourself, ‘Oh, I’d love to get her to cook me a meal.’
The problem is, not all people are girlfriend material. Everybody wants something different. Like the type of man a gold-digger goes for is not the same type of person a social worker would go for – so to start out, you’re going to have a long conversation with yourself where you get standards. That’s right, you’re going to get yourself some standards.
Take a piece of paper, or a nice word-processing program and write down what you look for in a woman. They have to be qualities specific to you. If you’re into comic books – you’re going to be after the nerdy girl. If you’re into art, find someone who can draw and is into going to galleries. If you’re into wellness and personal training, you’re not going to feel comfortable dating a crackhead. If you're into sophisticated lady or sex cougar, find out their club. Find what you want, and be diligent in screening for it.
2.Realize where to a girlfriend you’re looking for.
People like going to events and places that they enjoy. For example, you’re not going to find a finance type at a hippy commune, unless he’s going against the rigid structures that he knows and appreciates. Conversely, you’re not going to find a hippy at a yacht party – where are we going with this?
Find the places where you can flag the type of person you’re interested in, and go to those places. You’re never going to get the type of girl that you want if you’re avoiding the places that they go. There’s a reason why a certain type of girl goes to clubs, and another one avoids them entirely. Find which type that you want to get in with. It’s better not to waste your effort with a type of person that you’re going to wind up hating a few months down the line, so don’t do that. Don’t get into a relationship with someone that is just going to annoy you in that fashion.
If you are not sure which place they are, meeting women online can be a perfect way for you.
3. Approach the girls that you like.
There’s something mystifying happening in the world on a day to day basis, in relation to guys and the girls that they like – they’re too terrified to be talking to them. They continually elude them. But the only way you’re going to find a girlfriend is by when you grow a sack and approach women.
So instead, they guys wind up talking to girls that they’d much rather be just friends with – and that goes tremendously well so instead of being ‘just friends’, they start a romantic entanglement where the guy eventually winds up wondering, ‘Oh, right. I’m really not that attracted to this girl, why is it that we’re fighting with each other? How did we get to this point? What’s my name?’ It’s insane to me what lengths guys will go to in order to avoid talking to the girls that they’d probably wind up having a great time with. Don’t be an avoider. Be an action-taker.
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